Becoming overly enmeshed in a relationship can lead to poor boundaries and a diffuse sense of your own needs.Maintaining your sense of self-identity and taking care of your needs for personal well-being are the keys to keeping a healthy balance in a relationship.These are things everyone wants to feel in a relationship, but many often don’t.Focus on what you offer instead of what you feel you lack; this will change your perspective.Ways to maintain your independence include: Making time for your own friends, interests, and hobbies, maintaining financial independence, and having self-improvement goals that are separate from your relationship goals. Trust yourself to know that you won’t ignore your inner voice when it tells you that something isn’t right.
Insecurities are maintained and built upon when you negatively compare yourself to other people and harshly judge yourself with critical inner dialogue.If the other person doesn’t appreciate what you have to offer, that’s his or her loss. Build your self-esteem Research shows that people with more relationship insecurity tend to have poorer self-esteem.When you aren’t feeling good about who you are on the inside, it is natural to want to look outside of yourself for validation.Insecurity is an inner feeling of being threatened and/or inadequate in some way. But while it’s quite normal to have feelings of self-doubt once in a while, insecurity can sabotage your success in life and can be particularly damaging to your intimate relationships.Chronic insecurity robs you of your peace and prevents you from being able to engage with your partner in a relaxed and authentic way.