Dating an unbeliever
“Are you not afraid that this person, the one you love the most in this world, will one day go to a lost eternity if they are not saved? “I’ll just have to deal with that if it ever comes to it,” she replied and they married.
I had been warned by my mother, after speaking out to some of these friends, of the need to take heed in case I also would fall into the same sin.
With all his personal and professional qualities and with his interest in working in the developing world – his skills and his knowledge could be put to so much use in mission too… I basically cajoled this chap into attending on the Lord’s day, and he even swapped shifts to do it.
I was convinced that if he heard this pastor’s preaching, he would be converted (and I guess in the back of my mind it was that then we would be free to be together).
He was excellent at his job –very compassionate, dedicated and disciplined – really quite different from most of the others and also he seemed very, very eager to hear the gospel.
He had some Christian background, but really knew very little and described himself as “agnostic.” It was very exciting to share the good news of Jesus with someone who seemed so open and receptive.
I was called “our wee missionary” at my work, for some it was a big joke and I would be playfully teased, with others very good conversations (I hope) were had.
Then one day I met a man at work who I naturally seemed to click with.
He was a big help to me in the early days of my new life, everything seemed great, and I was convinced we were to marry – when quite suddenly, he ended our relationship.
It all seemed so encouraging and I was convinced he would surely soon be saved!
We discussed our relationship and I tried in a round-about way at the start to lay down ground rules by saying that Christian and non-Christian dating was a no-go area.
He started coming to church with me, he read the Christian books I would give him, we would debate and discuss for hours the Bible and what it was to be a Christian.
It seemed a wonderful opportunity to witness, and I felt spiritually refreshed and close to the Lord because of all our discussions and my reading of scripture and good books to try to convince him, and find answers to his questions.
Search for dating an unbeliever:
I also hope it will encourage pastors to lovingly warn their straying sheep. I had always feared marrying an unbeliever as it is clear from scripture to be wrong – I had seen a number of friends do this and their spiritual life stalled.